Soooooo.....

Apparently, I was right in my whole analysis of the situation.

"Soooooo....I just have to ask, because I'm trying to understand exactly what is going on..... and I feel that since I'm an involved party, I have the right to know. Do you remember the conversation we had on Sunday, or were you shit faced?
Playing dumb. "What exactly do you want me to remember?"
"About your wife...."
"Oh yeah, I remember. Well, if she knows, she has not said anything to me."
"Well, she knows. I'm saying that from a woman's perspective...for her to make the comments that she did while I was sitting there, she knows, and she wanted to let me know she knew."
"She hasn't said anything to me."
"Do you really expect her to?"
"No.......I believe you, trust me, I do. I guess she wouldn't say anything to me.....yet."
"I don't think she would."
"My guess, she doesn't have anything concrete.....she hasn't gathered enough evidence... so she wouldn't."
"I've come to that conclusion as well. Now, my question to you.....what exactly are you trying to do?"
"What do you mean?"
"I've noticed how careless you have become with your actions. At your brother's party...you were grabbing me in front of everyone...including your parents. You're usually more discreet. What has gotten into you?????"
Chuckling, he said, "I don't know."
"The moment she left on Sunday, you were grabbing me, and her friend was watching me...I looked up and our eyes met....you were not as discreet as you have been in the past...that's why I told you to stop. Now, I want to know, exactly what are you doing....are you trying to let her figure it out on her own, by your actions? Do you not care if you get caught??"

After a long pause, he said "I don't know."
I repeated his words. "I don't know."
"I don't know."
"Well, you know what? Thank you for the attempt at honesty. I wish you had told me that she would be there Sunday when you called though."
"I didn't know she was coming. She just showed up."
"Really."
"Really. She showed up after you. Is this what you're really all bent out of shape about?"

That statement let me know that he really is either oblivious or really doesn't give a crap's ass.

"Nooooo.......I want to get it all out in the open. I wanted to know exactly what you're doing."
"So you're trying to tell me to be more careful and to stop doing what I'm doing with you????"
"I'm just trying to delve into the mind of MM right now. Maybe it's the analytical side of me...I want to know what you're thinking. You say over and over you're living your life...that you are. But.....if I am going to be in the middle, I want to know what the hell you're thinking. That's all I want to know."

After a long pause, he said, "I don't know."
"Well, at least I know that much."

And predictably (I was surprised it didn't happen earlier in the conversation), he rushed off of the phone....
"Hey, I'm at work, I'll call you later."
"I'm working as well. I'll talk to you later babe."
"Okay. Bye."

So, to me, this conversation kinda proves that he indeed is being careless and does not care if she knows.

I had an open conversation with one of my compadres tonight....and his take on the entire situation is..... don't let him use me to get rid of her. He said he thought I was a better person to let myself get caught in the middle of something like this (but things happen sometimes dammit), and he said that I should just disappear until MM leaves her...because he's left her before and he went back.

Honestly, I am in a tail spin right now. I am being realistic about it all, but I guess sanity is setting in, and I feel like "Whoa.....I'm really setting myself up to be in the middle of craziness just for him to be with her at the end of the day." And just in all honesty, I never thought of it like that before. Before, I was just having fun, enjoying his company. Now, it's a new ballgame....she knows (even if she doesn't want to admit she does), and to me, unless MM knows what he wants to do, then is this even worth it??? What's the point of her knowing unless he's ready to take the ultimate step??!!!

Aye yay yay!!!